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About Jesse Schellenberg
Couples Counsellor and Relationship Therapist
Jesse’s Relationship Journey
Jesse’s early childhood was marred by the sudden and unexpected divorce of his parents. Through his late teens and early twenties Jesse struggled with depression and self-esteem issues that deeply affected his relationships. Jesse moved into adulthood searching for answers to the questions, “Am I lovable and am I worthy of someone’s attention?” Through his own therapy and healing, Jesse began a process of learning how to have effective, satisfying relationships, both with others and himself.
My Gifts as a Counsellor
Compassionate: I don’t work with problems; I work with people – people who have genuine hurts, concerns, and desires. I believe that in order to be effective in helping clients who are hurting, it is essential that I work from a standpoint of pure compassion.
Insightful: With comprehensive training in relationship therapy, and 6 years of working with couples, I am uniquely equipped to offer clients immediate insight into healthy relationship dynamics.
I help couples make sense of what has gone wrong and give them the tools they need to make things right again.
Attentive: Working with people instead of with problems, means being attentive to their wants and needs. Every action we take in our relationships is an attempt to be closer to our partners, even though it may be a destructive act at the moment. Attending to this underlying motive in couples therapy, allows me to focus on the positive intent within the relationship and help couples rebuild their connection.
Areas of Expertise
Relationship Counselling: Relationships can be a source of our greatest comfort and our greatest distress. Many couples come to a place where they feel stuck, repeating the same patterns that seem to lead nowhere. Counselling can help provide a healthier way of being with one another and offer the hope of safety and reconnection.
Separation and Divorce: Separation and divorce can be one of the most painful experiences endured in our relationships. Getting counselling can often help you avoid breaking up, if both you and your partner remain committed to the relationship.
If separation or divorce is inevitable due to one or both partners’ desires, Jesse offers a safe, non-judgemental space for you to explore challenging issues during this difficult time, and helps you have the most amicable divorce possible.
Infidelity: Infidelity can tear the bonds of attachment and bring couples to a place where hope is lost. Even during these times of extreme distress, relationships can be repaired. Counselling can help restore your relationship and offer a renewed sense of hope and connection for you and your partner.
Sexual Intimacy Problems: Healthy sexual intimacy is a vital part of any romantic relationship and it’s common for couples to experience difficulties connecting sexually. When sexual intimacy is threatened through withdrawal, pornography, or physical inability, the bonds of attachment can be threatened. Counselling can be a place of unconditional support where sexual intimacy is rejuvenated and restored, and new connections are created.
Formal Counselling Credentials
- Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy (MAMFT)
- Registered Clinical Counsellor #12014
Specialized Relationship and Couples Therapy Training
- Emotionally Focused Couples’ Therapy Level 1
- Gottmann Couples Therapy Level 1 &2
- Satir Systemic Therapy Level 1
- Observed Experiential Integration for Trauma Level 1
Jesse’s office is located in Langley, BC and provides counselling services to Clayton, Cloverdale, and Abbotsford.