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Relationship Counselling for Couples and Singles
Vancouver and Online

Suzan Moldenhauer

Registered Professional Counsellor
Relationship and Couples Therapist, Vancouver, BC

My Relationship Journey

Suzan Moldenhauer, Registered Professional Counsellor, Relationship and Couples TherapistAs a young girl, I was afraid when people argued and yelled, so I became good at keeping the peace to avoid causing trouble.

Like all of us, I carried what I learned in childhood into my adult relationships, believing it would keep everything intact.

I couldn’t have been more wrong.

In my healing journey, I realized by avoiding difficult conversations and leaving conflicts unresolved, I ended up feeling resentful and deeply lonely.

Discovering that I could sit in the discomfort of conflict and speak my truth was incredibly empowering and life-changing.

I learned the powerful lesson that resolution of conflict is the pathway to intimacy and emotional connection.

I bring what I’ve learned from my personal life and my therapist training and experience to help you create a loving and committed relationship. One you rightly deserve.

My Core Philosophy

Every healthy relationship has conflict because no two people are alike or want the same things. The key to having a successful relationship is how you manage conflict.

When disagreements are dealt with in a healthy way, partners know each other’s feelings more deeply and respect each other more. This creates a stronger and more intimate relationship.

The foundation of my practice is based on the ground-breaking work from Kristin Neff around self-compassion.

Research shows that when you practice self-compassion, you can move more easily through difficult times. Self-compassion also leads to becoming more productive and happier.

My couples therapy practice utilizes the highly acclaimed Gottman Method. This approach focuses on improving friendship, deepening emotional connection, and using tools to deal with problems and conflicts in a positive way.

You can create a fulfilling relationship through a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner.

The Gottman Method ensures you have the best opportunity possible to strengthen your relationship.

Gifts as a Counsellor:

I’m Compassionate: I meet you where you’re at with empathy and compassion. I overcame many of my dark shadows and pain and can hold space for whatever we uncover with you.

I’m Hopeful: I offer a hopeful and heartful approach to therapy. I believe your relationship has the wonderful possibility of restoring the love and shared meaning it once had.

If you’re single, I believe it’s possible to move beyond hurtful relationship patterns and find a loving and meaningful relationship.

I’m Patient: Making changes from the inside out and learning new skills takes practice and time. I will respectfully and kindly work with you at your pace.

I’m Real: We all struggle and have messy lives at times. We’re in this together. What connects us is that we all experience shame, grief, sadness, etc.

You’ll find that I am easy to talk to, down-to-earth, humble, funny, and direct in a caring way.

I’m Passionate About My Work: I’m honoured to sit with my clients’ pain and help them overcome past patterns that prevent them from achieving relationship happiness.

Counsellor Credentials:

  • Diploma in Applied Psychology & Counselling, Kelowna College of Professional Counselling
  • Mindfulness Self Compassion Training, Founded by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer
  • Licensed Be Body Positive Facilitator

Specialized Relationship and Couples Counselling Training:

  • Level 1 and Level 2 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy

Counselling Association Membership:

  • Registered Professional Counsellor #3938 (Canadian Professional Counselling Association)

I look forward to helping you make the first step toward reclaiming the joy in your relationships.

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